Issues

SOPA and PIPA: Two sisters out for some trouble

Posted by yseult on Jan 18, 2012 in Issues

Mozilla Chairwoman Mitchell Baker on #SOPA and #PIPAand what it all means. #readingorder #lesebefehl blog.lizardwrangler.com/2012/01/17/pip…

— yseult (@yseult) January 18, 2012

I twittered this to start of the day of protests that will finally gather some attention from the general public to the unbelievably inefficient ways of the US to try to come to terms with copyright issues throughout the internet.

Mitchell Baker’s piece says it all and you really don’t have to go any further than that, if you’re not interested beyond that. (If you are however and it’s not the 18th Jan, you may read up on SOPA and PIPA and obviously Wikipedia’s awareness page).

I’ll add a small thought to that in general.

The internet is a frontier free zone.

Certainly, our servers are located in certain countries and thus the same civil and criminal laws apply as with any action. However, the internet in itself in inherently independent from country boundaries, civil inequalities and other historically crafted ways to divide people into groups and favouring your own against another.

Any idea, law or technical mechanism that cannot accept this principle and strives to violate it, needs to suffer the suspicion of threatening liberty of speech, liberty of opinion and liberty of act.

Flickr, oh Flickr…?

Posted by yseult on Dec 7, 2011 in Issues, Personal

Odd things have been happening to a particular photo of mine from this post here:  http://yseult.mediaevaliter.com/2011/08/01/happy-world-breastfeeding-week/

It would suddenly disappear from my Flickr photo feed, then reappear again. It wouldn’t load into my post, but when you’d click on it, you could still see it on Flickr’s page.

Currently my latest Flickr feed plugin shows that the picture is ‘unavailable’ when in the feed it is still viewable.

If this is one of the big clean ups on Flickr as several breastfeeding support groups have seen on Facebook (Petition, and news coverage 2009 and from January 2011), then I am not amused.

The post-feminism fallacy

Posted by yseult on Dec 3, 2011 in Communication, Issues

After months of intense preparation to finish big projects that mean a lot to other people and thus by extension mean a lot to me (… another topic, for another time…), the time is finally here.
That moment when I finally start realising that in all truth: you cannot have it all.

I’ve been raised in a post-fervent feminism age, where women’s rights are a comfortable blanket you wrap yourself in and where the reality of the disadvantage of being a woman is always somewhere hidden behind the surface. True female discrimination, the open kind, is something that is barely visible today. (Not unlike the Covert racism my friend and writer Nicki Lisa Cole has written about).
The real problem is twofold: you’ll always be put down by people. Does it really matter what’s the reason? Sex, gender, nation, skin color? The biggest stepping stone for this problem to grow is us getting used to it. As human beings one of our most important evolutionary achievement is the capacity to forget. Forget and move on.
Based on this, is the second part of the ‘twofold’. We women have grown up to feminists and womens right’s acitivists telling us that we can have it all. Have your career, because your grandmother and mother couldn’t have one. Make your decisions for yourself. And once you’re ready, you can have your relationship with the best man in the world, get pregnant and share all your mental and intellectual wealth with your child. Have it all and lose nothing.

It’s been said more than once, and yet, everytime a woman says it people look away as if they’re witnessing a train wreck. (Or a dirty secret, which might not be all that far off from the truth.)
While I specifically will not negate a woman’s God given capacity to handle 100 things at one moment, that undeniable possibility for their brain attention to completely split off into a multitasking frenzy (I am a pro at that), I will argue that something always gets lost. Falls into the cracks of attention and is forgotten.
The same goes of career and family.

And now comes the caveat our mothers only knew too well. Because family in my case is composed of two people. Because a relationship asks for compromise and building something together. And while I am no one to doubt that some women can achieve their dream of a career and a full family life, I would however doubt that they’ve achieved this simultaneously and that they have achieved this with a partner engaged in their own career.

No, today we have this bipolar approach of you can have it all, as long as no man asks you to do it all together. Then women are all up for it and woe to them if in the small hours of the morning they confess to themselves that indeed, they can’t.

Come to think of it, why should we? Why does it seem that for the new generation of women, feminism has in fact raised the pressure to be perfect and have it all, instead of valorising our choices for what they are: a celebration of our liberty to choose.

Happy World Breastfeeding Week.

Posted by yseult on Aug 1, 2011 in Issues

Starting today and until the August, 7 the World Alliance for Breastfeeding Action is celebrating the world breastfeeding week: http://worldbreastfeedingweek.org/

Taking sides

Posted by yseult on Jul 22, 2011 in Issues, The Odd Philosophical Question

Why is discussion such a hard thing? Why are we afraid of taking sides or having a clear opinion about something? And why are we reluctant to say so in public? Why is taking a stand about certain matters suspicious in the world we live in today? And why has it become acceptable to not have an opinion?

This is an old issue of mine: why are people afraid to have an opinion about something they obviously care about?
The answer is probably simpler than we are led to believe and it has nothing to do with being too absorbed, having to much information on a subject – due to the mass of information in the mass media century – or the fact that they can’t be bothered.

In a time where people with conviction blow up market places and bomb refugee camps and after a century where convictions killed millions of people, it is clear that the image of a person with convictions and a strong belief system – and I don’t mean faith here – has been tainted. Today it equals with ‘being zelous’, ‘being intolerant’ or simply with ‘being suspicious’. But that’s not the only reason.

People have become afraid of expressing their opinions and beliefs because the aggressions or disadvantages that they fear being subjected to could test their system. This, of course, ultimately lead to an underlying agreement that certain discussions or debates are off limits. And since debate – in this mindset – is necessarily conceived as a negative thing, every way a person will try to discuss will be interpreted as a casus belli if the enunciation doesn’t present the four-step attenuation markers, such as subjective tense (also known as I-sentences… “I feel…”, “I think…”), conditional tense, question form and a “…don’t you think?” at the end.

Having an opinion, having conviction and explaining what led to these convictions should be something that can withstand questioning. Even more clearer: it should be something we ourselves question everyday and expose it to further outside questioning, because an opinion that remains unquestioned and un-argued will always just remain an opinion, as opposed to a vision or something that could potentially change the world.

There is a series of sayings that push us to suspect opinions and favour a more active approach to life (and a lot of them are rooted in Judeo-Christian culture): “Make it happen”, “Just do it”, “Actions count more than words”, “Do or don’t, there is no trying…” etc.
Actions however need basis. Physical basis for once. You cannot act on air, and when it comes to change for instance you need an object to change. But what if we took conviction and opinion to be the actual basis of action? What if arguing your opinion and conviction is in itself the first act? Then ‘having an opinion’ and confessing to it publicly could become that much more than just ‘having a philosophy’.

The Western Burka.

Posted by yseult on Jul 8, 2011 in Issues, Politics/History

Between the controversy of France banning the burka and the niqab this year, and Switzerland battling between banning the tschador in schools, during basketball games or when working in the Berne county administration, the arguments for either side often get lost in the emotions linked to this discussion.

While one side prones their right to the expression of their religious feelings, the opposing masses accentuate the religious-free modern state (when the argument needs to be rationally oriented) or redefine the burka as a symbol of female submission. I favour the last argument, because wearing either the tschador or the burka is Islamic law and not the expression of the islamic religion. The difference might be small for some, but decisive for me. I – as a Catholic – wouldn’t in my right mind as for the Catholic law to be applied in my everyday life or a return to the first inquisitional trial system when the state had no jurisdiction.

But this article is not about the burka per se, and I do not wish to go deeper into this particular discussion.

No. This article is about the Western version of the burka.

The nursing cover.

Never heard of a nursing cover before? Then please take a look is now advertised as one of the latest must haves for the soon-to-be or new mother.

Usually the reasoning goes as this (please note that I am describing the specific case as you’d encounter it in the US. Things are going this same direction in the rest of the world as well, however):

• Version 1. Since people don’t like to see naked boobs, these things are great for covering up.

If then, you have the impossible idea to argue against that, follows…

• Version 2. Since you really don’t want to show your boobs in public, these are still great for covering up.

This is what I would like to call the “naked boob-fallacy” in breastfeeding in public. What it suggests is that in any case, without any choice or other possibility, if you want to breastfeed, you have to expose your breast to the rest of the world around you. And since that is the case, you really should think about covering up. Like this.
I have been breastfeeding for over 6 months now, three months of those I have done it in public at least once a day (in a busy cafeteria at noon, to be quite precise) and I can tell you that I haven’t either flashed anything at anyone that could have been considered indecent by the greatest puritan standards, nor have I ever covered up either with a blanket or a nursing cover.

There are techniques for that, there are tricks to master which make breastfeeding in public as discrete as sitting in a doctor’s waiting room and nursing your 3 month old without any of the attendance even noticing or batting a lash. Sure, it takes time, it certainly takes some practice (which with friend is easily controlled), but the main point is: it is doable. Breastfeeding in public doesn’t mean flashing boobs.

We don’t have to rediscuss the particular problem of the US and their odd legislation in some states that prohibits breastfeeding in public at all or above a certain age, their weird attitude that allows them to not even blink at breasts in any kind of sexualised context, but scream in disgust at the sight of a drinking baby on the breast, but what we need to discuss are the reasons that make nursing covers the last trend. Why ‘covering up’ is necessary. Why a lot of people think, that breastfeeding needs to be done privately.

Because the reasons behind such attitudes, are the same that kept our grandmothers out of the public eye, refused suffrage to women on account of their supidity, advocated bottle feeding because there simply was no way that a woman’s milk could be better than what science had to offer.

Breastfeeding is a very special and very tricky thing at the same time. They key to a successful relationship between baby and mother that will make breastfeeding such an important part in both their lives is trust. Trust in your baby, trust in yourself as a mother, trust that you can find ways to solve problems, trust that you are enough and that you do enough… I could continue the list for a long while here.
Critique, side looks, the atmosphere that you are doing something wrong, the pressure to not feed in public because people might find it gross or indecent or wrong and lastly the automated link that has become so obvious between sex and breasts, make for immense pressure on new mums at a time when so many things are redefined for them. Their self-image, their self-appreciation, their role in life, their role in society, their status etc. etc.

Hiding is a natural reaction to all these changes. Hiding behind a nursing cover promises calm and protection from prying eyes. This is the wrong way to gain more understanding for breastfeeding or new mothers. All it does is draw even more attention to it. With the small addition of an act of concession that breastfeeding needs to be hidden. Needs to be done privately. Needs to be something odd that nobody wants to see.

When in truth it is the largest and most important building stone of the first lovestory your baby will experience. La Leche League says that breastfeeding is as much about communication as it is about feeding. As much about emotion, as it is about sustenence.

Nursing covers on the other hand are all about submission to the standards of a twisted vision, about breaking trust instead of furthering it.

Breastfeeding is something to be proud of and any mother that has breastfeed and seen how many pounds and kilos their kid has put on only with the help of their millk, will confirm this. Breastfeeding and milk production are hard work. It makes you tired, it challenges you, it draws on you even when you think you have nothing more to give and it pushes you to the limits of your love, but at the same time it helps you through the sleepless nights, gives you the confidence you need to let your little one start exploring that great world (because after all, sooner or later, she’ll need to eat… with you!) and it puts you in the middle of every single development of your child. You are the one that will know exactly when baby girl can hold her head, know how much she can flex her muscles, know her tells and her signs of fatigue.

Breastfeeding is that and so much more. WHY would we want to limit that to the private sphere? Hide it under a blanket or a cover? Why not show it outside and to the world?

Take a precious look at the picture that opens the main article of the last issue of ‘Breastfeeding Today’ (5/2011) by LLLI. Look into the eyes of these proud Guatemalteca, these shameless mothers.

That’s what proud breastfeeding looks like. And as mothers, as women, we have a right to feel like that. In public.

Please note that this article by no means is intended to pressure any woman to breastfeed. If you decide not to, the choice is yours, as are your reasons. This is a plaidoyer for visible breastfeeding, not against bottle feeding mothers.